Body Hair

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I was prating about on twitter earlier and saw a discussion on body hair and what people prefer on themselves and others.

The topic was led by Amanda Palmer, who is well-known for having hairy armpits and not giving a flying stuff what people think about it. In this day and age where we have what we should look like hammered into our brains with every advert we look at and the people who are chosen to be tv, its refreshing to have someone stand up and say “I’m not like everyone else. I’m my own person and i like being different” Even more so when you consider that in her profession looks are often more important than how well you can sing/play an instrument.

Now personally I don’t care if I have body hair or not most of the time. Its a lot of effort to keep it under control when you don’t have to. So in winter I tend to have a lot of it and in summer less, so I can get a nice even tan and not worry about sweat getting caught in the hair and making a nasty smell.

Thats just my own personal choice and my ex partners didn’t mind a bit. And why the hell should they. They have more body hair than I’m ever likely to have and I don’t comment on it.

Body hair is just another example of how its one rule for women nd one for men.

Men are considered less than men when they shave or wax their body hair. Yet women are unkept and a disgrace to their sex if they don’t.

The olympics are on at the moment and quite a few of the male competitors will have shaved legs arms ect. Mostly because when  your competing to be the best at your sport you want every advantage you can get. so in the  case of swimmers and runners getting rid of hair can help them be more stream line which helps them move faster.

I’m not sure how it works as I don’t think hair can make all that much difference. but I’m not an athlete and they wouldn’t do it as religiously as they do if there wasn’t some proof to back up the claims.

When your in school its a right of passage having your first body hair growth, yet when your a girl almost as soon as it happens your expected to rip it out and do so for pretty much the rest of your life.

Surely the amount of body hair we have should be a personal choice, not something that is decied by people we’ll never met who try and tell us what we should look like.

At the end of teh day its only hair. We change styles of hair on our heads all the time. try something new, if we dont like it we grow it out and try something else. why shoudn’t we do the same with our body hair. its not hurting anyo9ne having a bit more then is considered acceptable.



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over the past couple of weeks there has been stories everyday about how G4S are failing to met their contractual obligations.

They took tens of millions of pounds to proved the security staff at the Olympics. But have failed to do so. Often not letting anyone know there was a problem with staff numbers. Letting the police when they carry out  spot check deal with the lack of staff themselves.

Now I have experience of the sort of people who work for G4S through the amount of politics have been involved in. I have been to party conferences where the security staff where G4S and often they where under paid and over worked.

Because of the type of work that they do, before they have their first shift they have to to be certified to work in the security sector. It can take a long time to get the bit of paper that will allow you to work. Theres time spend in college and then taking the exam.

When it is time for the first shift they have to pay for their uniforms and name badges. Anything between £5- £10 pounds is charged for a replacement badge.

Having worked in retail where you need name badges I can say without doubt that your basic name badge doesn’t cost more than £2 to make. I have worked for people who make you buy your replacement badges if you lose yours but never more than what it costs for the company to get it.

Since you have had to pay for your work stuff outright, most of which is tailored, and got a qualification to allow you to work you would be forgiven for thinking that you would be getting a good wage.

But talking to my ex landlord who when made redundant went to work for them that’s just not the case. It’s a minimum wage job where your expected to work twelve-hour shifts and if needs be work through your unpaid breaks. He worked in train stations a lot of the time so he was often working when I saw him.

His main complaints where that the boss will change your shifts often without letting you know in advance. If your late for work, even if you told them you were stuck in traffic or your train was running late to get you to your post at the station your wages are docked.

Most of the people there would look for another job, any job if they had any time with which to do so. One month the ex land lord only had one day off in thirty due to staff shortages and the fact that the bosses can’t keep track of a simple file on the computer which tells them when someone is/n’t working, so they make up a new one.

The bosses don’t bother learning anyones name as they assume due to the bad working standards they expect people to work in they wont be turning up the next day. Of the ten who started at the same time as my ex landlord only two of them where left by the end of the month. Both of them working fathers who needed some sort of wage to support their families.

Now normally I wouldn’t comment on the state of a company like G4S. They rarely affect me and to be perfectly honest I don’t care about the mess they have made of the Olympic task they were given.

But, when they where doing security at the golf open this past week they pretty much stood and watched and criminals stole lead from the roof of a church they where guarding since its grounds where being used as a car park.

Now the church would have been given a large amount of money to allow the official cars to park there, but it wont be enough to pay for the repairs to the roof.

Now I’m not religious but I think churches are often beautiful places where you can go for quite time or to look at the building for its self. an interesting building.

In an article I read about the theft of the lead it is reported that one of the personal claimed they didn’t do anything to stop it as it wasnt in their brief. they where there to make sure nothing happened to the cars, not to protect the church.

If your contract says your there to make sure one thing doesn’t happen but your allowed to watch a crime be committed then your bosses deserve to be put in front of a judge as well as the people commuting the crime. I believe it’s called perverting the course of justice.

With working practices like those is it any wonder they can’t retain the numbers of staff they said they would have in place for the Olympics.

I’m surprised that they have people applying to work there when the only people you can find who have anything positive to say about the company are those who are in the higher rungs of management.







Gun Control

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I’m writing this as someone who lives in a country that doesn’t allow gun ownership. So I will be writing from that point of view.

Its been a year since a mad man killed tens of young people in Norway and changed that country for ever. Possibly not for the best.

A couple of days a go a man walked into a cinema and killed 12 people injuring fifty odd others. I wont be naming the people who did this. As we should be remembering the lives that were lost and not giving the things who committed these crimes the notoriety of using their names.

It seems to me that a lot of people do this to make them self known to history. How many people can remember the names of the victims of Timothy Macvay, who aren’t members of their families or friends?

God knows I don’t remember them and have had trouble finding anything with their names included. Even when Macvay was murdered by the state people concentrated on him and didn’t really mention the names of the victims. instead concentrating on the numbers killed and injured.

I live in England in a sleepy little town, where the only time I have ever seen a police officer with a gun was a few years ago when a lawyer lost his gun and went a bit nuts.

Thankfully no one was injured and it came to a peaceful conclusion after a couple of hours.

How many places in America that compare to the size and age range of my little town can say that? None I bet.

Here we know that the bad guy is the one who is armed. Where in America with the gun laws that change from state to state or even building to building it is hard to know just who is the bad guy in a situation.

I have used BB guns and own one at the moment. Why? Because its something I can do well and it helps me get rid of some anger and frustration. Plus if one of the members of my family where stupid enough to walk in front of the gun when someones firing or they shot themselves it’s not going to do much damage as long as the pellet doesn’t hit their eye.

I have a young son who lives with his father and I didn’t get the gun till after he stopped living with me. As long as he was living with me I wouldn’t have let a BB gun in the house. IF he was still with me I wouldn’t let one in the house till he was at least 12, and could show he was responsible enough to have one around.

I have shot a rifle, and enjoyed the trill it gave me to pull the trigger and see the result of the bullet in a target. The rifle was bolted down to the barrier stopping you walking onto the firing range. the barrel could only move 45 degrees from pointing straight forward. We weren’t allowed to be in the room when they set the guns up or put them away.

When it came to shooting, the bullets were counted out and put in the gun before we took our turn. When it was time to leave there where no bullets let where we were. they had been counted out so that by we all have ex amount of bullets to shot, no more no less.

Living in a rural town there are a lot of farmers around who do have weapons in their possession. But you never hear storied of their kids getting hold of the weapons and shooting themselves and others. Thats because they take ownership of the weapons very seriously and, also theres spot checks to make sure that they are keeping the weapons in the right way.

If they fail a spot check they have their weapons removed from them immediately and are banned from owning them for a set amount of time depending on how badly they broke the rules.

It takes a longer then three days from them to get a licence to have the weapons.

How many checks and how through can they be if you walk into a shop buy a gun and be able to have it under your pillow within three days.

Things go wrong often enough in private homes where guns are present to make me think that the majority of people who get the guns dont kept the gun separate from the bullets and in safes.

I understand the argument that since the criminals have guns you should be allowed to own one to protect yourself.

But by doing that it makes it easier or criminals to get hold of guns and the situation is just going round in a deadly circle.

The criminals here also have guns. But those people are in the minority and don’t represent the main weapons used in committing crimes. Most of them use knifes and anything that comes to hand.

I’m scared of the idea of guns being more widely available in this country. The death rates due to crimes will go up as people find it easier to get hold of deadly weapons. As it is most people who are the victims of crimes live to tell the tale normally just scared and bruised. Not shot to hell and dead.

In this country people who take hostages using a gun are more than likely to live to tell the court about what led them to take that course of action. From what i gather from the news thats not the case in America. We often hear that the situation ended with the police going in and shooting the hell out of everyone present.

I don’t claim to know the answers. I just know that I enjoy living in a country where it’s almost impossible to get your hands on a gun and where we’re never likely to get laws that allow the sale of guns to the mass public.


Trying to find confidence.


After all the things that have happened over the past two years I have no confidence and very little self esteem.

It’s hard to keep a hold of them when everyone around you is saying that you’re a failer and not worth anything to anyone.

Before all this happened I was an out going and bubbly person who called a spade a spade and wasnt afraid to say boo to the goose.

Over the last two years every time I thought I had reached rock bottom in regards of the situation and how I am within myself, something has always come along to make me realise that there is always father to fall. I keep hitting new lows. And, now I’m worried that there will be a new, even deeper rock bottom to hit just around the corner.

Thats no way to live a life. Not one that means anything.

After everything thats happened its hard to understand that only you can make the best out of any given situation. No ones going to wave a magic wand and make sure it’s all going to be roses.

It works when your five and your parents can still sort everything out with a few well-chosen words. But, as a fully grown adult you have to learn to say the words to yourself. and, out them into action.

Thats something I’m out of practice on.

For example by the age of twenty I was a shop supervisor with a team of five people working under me. Now four years later I can barely go outside on my own.

So my advisor at the job center decided to send me on a “Picking up the pieces” course run by one of the local collages. So after a sleepless night, last monday I talked my little brother into taking me to the sign on day.

He got talked into it because the rooms being used for the course are situated in the Blackpool Football Club stadium. He could go and player spot while I got on with filling in the forms.

So just over a week later I have been to two days of the course. GEtting there on my own after being dumped by my little bro in favour of the evil ex and his soon to be wife who’s been with him less than six months.

Getting there was a complete nightmare thanks to having to get the bus and the golf happening in my town.

Sitting in the corridor they call a waiting room also not much fun, to be lead into a largish room where four of us and a teacher sat around a table.

I just wanted to leave and never look back. But somehow I managed to stay there. My hands really didn’t think me for it. I was so uncomfortable and anxious that I rubbed my hands red raw. Even with using a hand gel to try to stop it hurting.

At least I don’t have any hard skin on my hands at the moment.

By the end of the three-hour session where everyone let a little slip about why their there and what they want to be able to do in the next week, month and year I had relaxed enough to be able to sit on my hands and not have them doing their best to rub against something.

Although when we had a break about half way through the three hours I came very close to walking away and not looking back.

So after the second day I was still ready to leave at break time.

but again I stuck with it and made to the end of the session. After a few exercises that were meant to help build up a confident extirer. Turns out that I have very confident and assertive body langauge when I’m relaxed. But it’s so big that if you wanted to my body langauge could be taken as aggressive. Which could explain why in a lot of the reports filed against me in court which meant that I couldn’t look after son, they said my body langauge was aggressive and non-helpful.

But tis not something I ever thought about. its just the body langauge I have always had.

When I’m in the class I do feel better and more like I can do what needs to be done to make life better for myself. But as soon as I leave and go into the big bad world it all seems to just blow away with the ever-present wind in Blackpool.

By the time I get through with the journey home, the waiting for the bus, the bus ride and then getting back into the house I’m back to being a nervous wreck who cant wait to be back in her pit.

Well we have a few more weeks of the course to go. you never know by the end of it i may be able to get home with out turning into a nervous wreck. And if that happens well I’ll treat myself a lovely big KFC banquet. Even though the shop is next to the bus stop i use, i havent gone in yet.

Somethings happening.

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Today is the official start of the British Golf Open, at Royal Lytham and St. Anne‘s golf course. Or to put it another way its only about ten mins from where I live.

Boring i know but there you go.

For the past few weeks the roads around my town have been getting repaired and painted. The buildings have been sand blasted, and all the posh house round about have sprouted signs offering rooms and parking for the event.

People have been star spotting for the last few days comparing who’s been seen or talked too.

Its madness in an area where over the streets are still only wide enough for a single person horse and cart.

I know that the Golf has been happening on that course for many decades.

The last time it was held here was ten years ago when I was still in high school. The course is located behind the school. quite often during PE lessons we had to go and ask for our ball back from the club. Or just use the public foot path that runs through the middle of the course to get to where the ball was.

The only things stopping us from going off the path onto the course proper where signs telling us to keep off the green. Not going to do a lot to stop a teenager who’s been sent to got a ball of is planning on using the course as a hide out when skipping class.

A lot of the hospitality tents are set up on the schools playing field. Considering that the field is big enough for a couple of games each of rugby, football, rounders and lacrosse at the same time. leaving room for the running track. Even though the field really is that large the tents cover it and then some.

At the best of times people around here aren’t very good drivers or very good at parking legally.  Over the past few days that problem has gotten worse. A lot of the people who are now driving around in official Open cars or with names of golfers on the cars are parking on the pavements often almost running people over to do so. Or parking so badly on the pavement that they block the pavement for pedestrians who then have to go into the road to pass. Very much not a good idea when you consider that the average age for residents in our town is about 75. It also explains why none of them are very good at the whole being being a driver thing.

So in short while this next week may be a good thing for the local businesses its not a good thing for those of us who have to live with it.