Is being raised a christian a bad thing?

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According to Richard Dawkins it is.

he was raised Roman Catholic and claims a lot of the teachings mess with people’s heads long into adulthood.

From the age of seven I attended a Church of England church every week. And I believed in God and everything that comes with it in the way only a child can.

After I was confirmed into the faith I became an altar girl and every other week preformed those duties for six years, before I started questioning my faith and eventually came to the conclusion it wasnt for me after not getting answers I needed to stay in the church.

Some of my happiest childhood memories involve things that happened through the church. Much of that because I had I fantastic vicar who really knew how to get kids involved in the church.

So untill recently I would have disagreed with professor Dawkins.

But my child who sadly doesn’t live with me came out with a statement because of the way he’s being raised a christian that broke my heart.

his father recently re found his faith, but not before knocking up his then girlfriend less than a month after thy got together. he found faith and they got wed in what I consider to be a cult church not a real church.

I didn’t marry my ex before my son was born as I felt the money was better spent on preparing for the baby and I hated growing up knowing my parents only got married because I was coming along. they had an unhappy marriage, and like a lot of kids I blamed myself for them  not being happy. I didn’t want my son knowing we wed because he was coming before the planned date we had already set.

My son told me because I didn’t marry his father before he was born, he’s not a real child like his half-sister. That god doesn’t love him as much as her because we weren’t married and that we don’t love him properly because we didn’t marry. That he shouldnt be loved as much as her because we didnt marry.

None of that is true.

At least not for my side of his family who love him unconditionally and will do anything to make sure he knows he is loved, wanted and very much a proper child.

but because people at church and his own father have said things along those lines in his hearing he thinks it true.

My ex claims no ones said it around him when I challenged him about it, but my ex isn’t good with the truth, even more so when it could make him look less than good in others eyes. So I don’t believe him. plus by going to a cult church were I know I’m considered less than human because I refuse to believe in their god I wouldn’t put it past them to say nasty things about me to him even if it something that makes him unhappy.

My understanding of being a proper Christian is loving everyone no matter what and not making them feel bad for something they didn’t have any control over. Even more so when that person is an impressionable young child.

When I found out that this half sibling was coming I worried that he would be treated differently to her and think he was worth less than her and because of the way the so-called christians around him are behaving it has happened.

And it breaks my heart that he is moved to tears by what so-called christians have said to/ around him.

It’s not christian and I have come to the conclusion that raising a child in the way is worse than anything I was accused of as this is something which plays on his mind a lot and will more than likely do so for the rest of his life.

it saddens me to say it and believe it as I wanted him to have the same happy memories of church and associated events that I had growing up. but because I wasn’t married to his father when he was born he’ll never know the happiness I did as a child at church. the half sibling might since in their eyes she is a real child who is loved properly and god accepts her in a way he doesn’t my son.



CRB Checks

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So today its been announced that the way CRB checks are handled is going to change in the new year.

The new system means that you can apply online and it will be free in certain circumstances to make it easier to apply and get one.

Now as someone who has had to go through the CRB process I can tell you that it really isn’t the easiest thing to get.

Firstly theres filling in the forms. Which are longer and much more complicated than a uni application. You need to have your full birth certificate and two people to counter sign who’ve know you for at least three years each and have a clear CRB.

After spending a good couple of days filling it out you then post it off and wait to find out if you’ve passed the check.

When they say that you’ll have it in about four weeks, they lie.

I’ve had four CRB checks and the shortest amount of time I’ve ever had to wait is three months.

12 whole weeks.

During which time I couldn’t work with the guides or brownie groups I was having the check to work with.

I loved my time in the groups as a kid and went back as a leader so other kids could have the chance to do the things I did and loved.

I worked with four different groups and for each one I had to get a new check done.

With the new system if you have a clean valid certificate then any group you apply to work with can view it online and use it as your check for them.

Now it always used to annoy me having to go through the check for every group I worked with. Even more so when two of the times I had to do two checks at the same time.

But, it makes sense. Once your check is done its valid for three years before you need to get a new one. During that time you can then go and get a criminal record that you would think would invalidate the certificate. But it doesn’t. Don’t know why but it doesn’t and whatever it is you’ve done will only come out the next time you get the check done.

Now with the new system where you can move your certificate from one place to another, I can see there being a problem and things sliding through that really shouldn’t. Rather then allowing the checks to move with you to make it easier to start somewhere new, the government should improve the way that the checks are done and make it so the checks come through quicker.

More like the way you can get a passport. using your information to recheck it and issue you a new one.


Charity Calenders.

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So it’s that time of year again where the world and his uncle are trying to get us to buy a calendar.

Some just because they look pretty others for various charities.

Now I’m pretty sure everyone is aware of the WI calendar that started the whole being naked in a calendar thing over ten yeas ago. Since then the market hs been flooded with naked calender all claiming to be for one charity or another.

So I find it hard to believe that a college rowers charity calendar has made the headlines for all the wrong reasons.


Yes its just another calendar. yes ita got pics of naked women in it.

But even so it’s tastfully done and the money raised is going to a charity that is close to the models hearts.

Now I’m all for everyone being treated the same and being respected for doing things that help others.

So i was shocked to see that people are attacking these young women for being tastefully naked, claiming that they are putting the womans cause back by decades.

I don’t see how.

To me feminism about getting treated the same as men in everything and not allowing double standards to happen anywhere.

By attacking things girls for doing something their male counterparts have done for years is showing the double standards these woman claim that they are fighting against.

There will be people out there who’ll buy the calendar because it has naked women in it.

And that sad and childish. But at the same time the money that is spent on the calendar will be going to a good cause. surely we can all agree that is worth a few people getting their jollies by owning it.